Greetings, kindred spirit! If you’re reading this, chances are we share the journey of long-term marriage. Perhaps, like me, you’ve reached a turning point – the children have left home, your husband is constantly preoccupied, and you find yourself looking in the mirror at these new lines on your face and wondering, “Who am I, really?” The emptiness can be overwhelming, my friend. But I want to reassure you that it’s not the final destination. Through healing, growth, and self-discovery lies a brighter path waiting for you on the other side.
The Trauma That Lurks Beneath the Surface
For years, I prioritized the needs of others above my own. My identity was defined by being a perfect wife and mother. But in moments of silence, a voice inside me would whisper, “You’re not enough.” I brushed it off as anxiety, but deep down, unresolved trauma was festering. Maybe for you, it stems from your past or a current relationship that isn’t fulfilling. No matter the source, ignoring it won’t make it go away. It’s time to confront those demons and find healing.
Embracing Vulnerability
Healing means acknowledging the pain and working through it to come out stronger on the other side. For me, this meant seeking professional help – therapy made all the difference! It’s okay to ask for support and be vulnerable. Those tears you’ve been holding back? Let them fall. Your story is important, and there’s freedom in sharing it with someone who understands.
Taking Care of Yourself is Not Selfish – It’s Necessary
When you’re on an airplane, the flight attendants always remind you to put your oxygen mask on first. This is one of those moments, my dear. Self-care isn’t about being self-indulgent; it’s about refueling and recharging so that you can be there for yourself and for others. What brings joy to your life? Is it curling up with a good book, taking long baths, or finally trying out that art class you’ve been eyeing? Make time for these things. Your inner self deserves to be nurtured.
Rediscovering Your Passions and Purpose
When was the last time you did something solely because you wanted to? Perhaps you have forgotten what truly makes your heart skip a beat. It’s time to try new things, to explore, and most importantly, to fall in love with yourself again. Journaling has helped me uncover desires I had buried deep inside. What are your deepest longings? Don’t be afraid to pursue them, even if it means taking a risk or two.
Building a Supportive Community of Women
No one can do it all alone, sweetheart. Surrounding myself with other women who are also on a journey of healing and growth has been crucial for me. Seek out those who uplift you, who understand your struggles, and celebrate your victories. Together, we can overcome anything
A Love Letter to Myself (and to You)
The journey I’m on is far from simple, but it’s undoubtedly worth it. I am constantly growing and evolving, but I have learned to embrace this flawed, chaotic but ultimately beautiful version of myself. She is tough, resilient, and deserving of love – both from others and from within. So here’s to you, beautiful soul. May you find the strength to confront your struggles, to embrace your vulnerability, and to emerge as the vibrant, thriving woman that has always existed at your core. You are capable, and know that you are never alone in this journey